I have a challenge for you. This is a toughie even though it shouldn’t be. Go stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself. Really look at yourself, from top to bottom and bottom to top, give yourself a really close look. Look deeply at every body part then look at the whole package, all put together. Now find things you love about yourself.
I did that this morning as I was finishing up putting on my makeup. I looked at the whole package, from my curly unruly hair to my badly done self-pedicure and at first glance I wasn’t particularly pleased with what I saw. Curly hair that always looks like I just got out of a convertible on a cross country road trip. Reconstructed breasts from a bilateral mastectomy complete with tattooed nipples, and contrary to the common misconception, it’s not a boob job. A stomach that is no longer taut, legs that are too short and thighs that are too big. Nothing grotesque but no super model by any figment of the wildest imagination.
Then I looked again and really looked at myself. I decided that my curly unruly hair fits me quite nicely as I am unruly and brash. I looked at my eyes and the odd color of blue that they are is quite striking. My gaze traveled down to the rest of my anatomy and decided that I don’t care that my reconstructed breasts are not perfect but at least I’m alive and cancer free. My legs are short and heavier than I would like but I can walk and get around just fine.
Then I turned inward and looked at my soul and spirit. I found a person that doesn’t take life too seriously. I am as irreverent about life as how curly my hair is. I will almost always make a wisecrack about anything sad or happy. We’re not here long enough to get too serious. I am basically an honest person and will protect my family and friends to the death. I am passionate about living the rest of my life doing things that make me happy and whole. All in all not a bad person, fairly normal.
Now it’s your turn, what do you love about yourself? The list should be long, because there is so much more to a person that what looks back at you in the mirror. Your smile, the way you tilt your head to one side or the really tight hugs you give to the people you love, these are the wonderful beautiful parts of you and should never ever be dismissed. These things are what make you perfect
Great post, and a great lesson for many… I note not many have accepted the challenge, which rather says something, don’t you think?….
Actually, I’m going to slide on the challenge, by saying I have no problem with myself, in re: not loving anything about me. Sure, there are things I’m working on changing, but, if I took time to make a list of those things I feel good about, I’d be here all day…. I’ve always believed what I read long ago, that we cannot love others if we cannot love ourselves, and, vice versa…. It has to be balanced, or confusion reigns…
Take care, & stay dry. Don’t know ’bout y’all up north a ways, but, we’re getting drenched… It’s good, especially for those of us who like the rain, having lived in Washington for four years…. You learn to like it, or lump it. I hate lumping.
See ya
gigoid
Thank you, yes we are getting the rain here too. Take care, Susan
I love much about myself. And there are somethings, I need to improve. Both have nothing to do with the physical. To love thy neighbour – starts with me.
Peace,
Eric
Very good and that is how it should be, but we do put too much stock on appearance.