It’s the Little Things

It’s the little things that count the most. The unexpected thoughtful acts say, “I love you” more than flowers or flashy jewelry. I’m talking about the most mundane daily actions, like bringing a cup of coffee to your partner, just because you made one for yourself. Simple thoughtful, considerate boring actions that truly say, “I love you.”

I know that Mitch loves me, he has to, to put up with me but that’s beside the point. It wasn’t until my foot surgery and total dependence on him, did I realize just how much. He could have gone through the motions and did only what was necessary, take care of the dogs, feed me and chauffeur me around. He didn’t, Mitch did the little things, the deeds that you don’t notice until one time it gets missed and you realize how special it is and how much you depend on him.

Since my foot surgery, I have to shower in the guest bath, because it has a walk-in shower stall, easy access for me. And every morning Mitch carries over my hair turban before I get in the shower so I don’t have to crutch back across the house with wet drippy hair. I don’t see him do it, the turban is just there when I get out of the shower. I never even asked him to do that for me, he just did it. What man would care or even notice that a woman would want a hair turban to make a difficult experience a little easier to deal with? This is just one example of so many silly mundane acts that Mitch does without being asked.

This says more about someone than all the expensive gifts in the world. This says that he’ll be here through thick and thin, good and bad and especially when I’m at my worst and can’t even take care of me. I think this what the great marriages and relationships all have in common, sensing what the other needs or helps make their day a bit more comfortable and easier to get through a difficult situation. I am truly lucky to have him in my life.

I guess I’ll have to step up my game when I shed the boot.

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15 thoughts on “It’s the Little Things

  1. Oh Susan, what a heartwarming post. Gratitude is such a special thing and it lifts love to flow freely. I think Mitch’s thoughtfulness flows, because you flow the same in return..it’s lovely. 🙂

    • Thank you so much, Jane. One thing we always tell others and each other, “is that we like each other”. That says a lot about a relationship, when you actually like each other. It makes everything else easy.

  2. Unfortunately, media has forced formed perceptions of what ‘true’ love is – and many believe in that. Don’t get me wrong – flowers, chocolates and bling have their time and place — but for Lisa and I, it is the little things that matter.

    • You’re right about the media defining our “relationships” and as usual, they get it wrong. I love the flowers, chocolate and the bling as much as the next person too, but it’s the everyday thoughtfulness keeps us together. Of course, fear also works. 🙂

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